I was bumped into food for the little girl’s party

DEAR ABBY: I was deeply hurt after grilling at my oldest daughter’s home.

Jeanne Phillips

It was to celebrate my grandson’s fourth birthday. My daughter’s husband is from Thailand. He grilled beautiful dishes of shrimp and something resembling a giant crawfish.

While my daughter is used to and enjoys this food, she and her husband are aware that I, my husband, her sister and her niece are not used to it. We simply do not like the taste and texture.

When I asked my daughter if there were any hot dogs they could grill, at least for my 9-year-old granddaughter, she got angry and said she eats what her husband does.

I felt that our part of the family was not even considered. I was hurt by my youngest daughter and my second grandchild, who literally had nothing to eat that they would even like.

Am I wrong in feeling ignored by being invited to a barbecue where my daughter knew that all the food on offer was things we did not like?


DEAR RUINED: I think you’re blowing this out of proportion.

I assume you have been invited to your daughter’s and son-in-law before, and knew her husband was cooking. Before you came over, you should have asked if it would be okay to bring a few traditional American dishes for the kids. If your offer was rejected, you could have skipped the grill.

That said, look at the big picture. It was only an afternoon. I assume the kids were taken out for burgers or hot dogs afterwards and no serious harm was done.

DEAR ABBY: I’m a news junkie. Since my teenage years, I have loved watching the news and staying up to date on current events.

I have also had a problem since childhood. When I see a person get an injection, I get a physical reaction. I shake from head to toe. Because of the pandemic, I can no longer watch newscasts because they are constantly showing that people are being vaccinated.

Are there others who have the same reaction? Any suggestions?


DEAR SQUEAMISH: I’m sure more people than you think have significant reactions regarding needles. One of my dear friends has to lie down before a procedure involving a needle because she faints. In your case, because news anchors usually announce before commercial breaks what will be shown “right after this important message from our sponsor”, take note of it and turn your head, change channel or leave the TV until the next segment.

DEAR ABBY: What do you do with a big family picture of yourself, your husband, your son and your daughter-in-law who is no longer your daughter-in-law? She and my son divorced after nine years of marriage. He has since remarried. I do not want to hang the picture, but I do not know what to do with it. Any help would be appreciated.


DEAR: Try this: Contact your ex-daughter-in-law and ask if she wants the picture. If she is interested, offer it to her. If she is not, feel free to throw it away.


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