It is a ritual as old as time. Make New Year’s sequel to herald a fresh start.
Although it is a success for many, some people may find it more stressful to try to make decisions as the year gets busier.
North Texas Psychotherapist Tori Dixon from Graceful Journey Counseling said it’s time to get rid of the mantra “New Year, New Me”.
“Why can we not have a new year with a better us? Why should it be a new year, new us? ” said Dixon. “Why can we not bring who we are fully and authentically to a new space and evolve. Why can we not get better?”
Dixon agreed that the new year is a good time to reevaluate what you want to see in yourself, while letting go of what you have been able to achieve.
“What if we choose grace? Grace gives us the opportunity to be who we are at the moment. To access our faults. To lean into our strengths and give us a soft place to land. As I get it “better, I’m getting stronger. I know everything I went through was not wasted, but it has not been wasted. Nothing is wasted if you learn from what has happened,” Dixon said.
Nearly two years in a global pandemic have pushed so many in so many ways. Dixon said using that experience as a way to push forward in a new chapter.
“Take a deep breath and give yourself the opportunity to say I’ve done it. I could have been anywhere and done anything, but luckily I’m here at the moment. None of us get it right. all the time, but if we can understand that we have come this far, even though we are not where we want to be, then we can see the beauty in where we are, ”said Dixon.
Her last piece of advice is to seek help.
“None of us are alone on this journey. We can not be who we need to be if we do not ask for help. Tap your support system. Find a support system and remember that change is part of a community, and we are sitting at a table and we all just want to get better, ”Dixon said.