Friends’ alcoholism is out of control – The Denver Post

Dear Amy: My friend is a drunk. It’s disgusting to look at.

At several times over the years that I have traveled with her, she has found ways to drink while a passenger in my car – often from a “water bottle” that has vodka in it.

If I was stopped by the police and they found liquor within reach inside my car, I would be fired from my job immediately.

I have discussed this with my friend, but she has still violated my trust.

She has gone to rehab, tried cold turkey and been hospitalized. She lost her job because of her alcoholism.

She is an educated, lively, loving, caring friend who stood by my side as life kicked me in the head and heart as I dealt with the loss of my mother and as other friends withdrew.

I love our friendship.

I recently hosted a holiday party. I thought I was on alert, but I did not notice how much she drank.

I looked across the table and saw (once again) the half-mast eyes, mouth agape with food dribble out, down into her dress and onto the floor. Her face was almost in her plate. She spent the night fainting on my couch.

I’ve reached my limit. I talked to her the next morning. She apologized violently, but I realize it does not matter.

I would be horrified to be in that state of intoxication, but she does not seem to be ashamed at all.

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