This person’s gender identity suppresses conversation

Dear Amy: Our adult daughter and her partner have been together since college. They live together in another city. There has been a lot of talk about marriage over the years.

Amy Dickinson

Several months ago, they videotaped us to tell us that the partner no longer identifies as a man, but as a non-binary gender. He has adopted the pronouns de / dem / deres.

They should not be referred to as a “man” or her boyfriend. When / if she and they marry, they will not be her husband, but a gender-neutral designation.

My wife and I have concerns but are ultimately tolerant of their choices.

However, she and I have been using the English language for over 100 years and have a hard time making this linguistic transition.


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