Harriette Cole: Is it arrogant of the ‘new kid’ to suggest team building?

DEAR HARRIETTE: I started at a new job and I have a bit of a hard time getting used to working remotely in this new position.

Harriette Cole

To begin with, my company is medium-sized, but it seems huge when I meet people via Zoom. It’s hard to remember who’s who and to build a relationship with people when everything is formal and distant.

I thought it might be a good idea to organize a virtual cocktail class after work one day to get to know each other. However, I will not be overconfident as the “new kid”.

How should I handle this?

Social organizer

DEAR SOCIAL ORGANIZER: I like your idea. Take it to your boss and inquire about whether they like it too – as a team event.

It could unfold in different ways. Inviting the entire team that you work with directly could work, or maybe a subset. If you choose a small group and build from there, you may not even need to involve your boss.

The second thing you can do is choose a person once a week to invite for virtual coffee during the day or a virtual drink in the evening. This way you can get to know people one on one.

DEAR HARRIETTE: I’m so mad right now. I have been super careful every day since the coronavirus pandemic started.

For more than a year I did not go outside except to go to the grocery store and to the doctor. Only in the last few months have I relaxed at all. I still wear a mask even though I have started back in the gym. I only take off my mask when I eat or drink and I still keep my distance even then.

And what do I get for it? COVID-19.

I’m so angry and so scared. I already have existing relationships and that’s why I was so careful. I feel so sick and worried. My doctor says there is not much I can do but drive out.

I’m fully vaccinated and boosted, but so what? I feel like a failure and maybe I have put my loved ones in danger. I’ve told the few people I’ve been around. What else can I do?


DEAR POSITIVE: COVID-19 has increased across the country and around the world. The omicron variant is said to be drastically more contagious than other variants of this disease. Give yourself a break. It sounds like you have been very careful. I’m so sorry you’re sick.

Make sure you get plenty of rest and keep in touch with your doctor. The walking wisdom that I have seen so far is that we need to go back to wearing N95 or KN95 masks now to help protect ourselves. A year ago, my doctor told me that we will all have to learn to live with COVID-19. He was right. Do your best to stop beating yourself up. Like it or not, you and thousands of others are going through exactly the same thing right now.

Harriette Cole is a lifestyle expert and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c / o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.


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