DEAR HARRIETTE: I do not want to publicly support my friend’s YouTube channel because I dislike their content.
I have a lot of followers and I only sign things that I absolutely love.
Should I be completely honest with them about this? I do not want to hurt my friend’s feelings, but I think their feelings are already hurt by my lack of public support for their channel anyway.
DEAR BAD CONTENT: This is a good question and extremely challenging. On the one hand, you can “play dumb” and not say anything, but as you point out, that doesn’t mean your friend stops wondering why it’s wrong.
You can also be honest. The question is, how much honesty is right at the moment? When you look at your friend’s channel, what bothers you about it? Is the quality of the content poor? Is it in bad taste? Is it amateurish? Is it wild? What about the content bothers you – specifically?
Once you are crystal clear about what is bothering you, you can decide what information is worth sharing with your friend. If your feelings are purely subjective, you can say so much: The content does not appeal to you personally; therefore, you do not feel comfortable adapting to it.
If your assessment is that the content is somehow negative, be prepared to say what exactly falls within the negative range.
Choose a time to talk to your friend that is private and secure. Tell them you know you did not publicly support their YouTube channel and out of respect for them you would tell why. Sorry if your thoughts make them uncomfortable, then share highlights.
DEAR HARRIETTE: Is it weird to start traveling alone? I’m single, I have no children, and I have no plans to have children in the near future.
My New Year’s resolution was to see the world this year, but I do not have friends who are readily available to travel with me. I want to do it all alone. I’m self-employed, so I do not really have to be in one place. Is that a good idea?
DEAR SINGLE TRAVELERS: Good for you that you are not waiting for someone to pursue your dreams. When you are passionate about something, it is not always necessary to get buy-in from others. I am a big supporter of traveling. It helps to open your eyes and consider the ways of others. I fully support your idea.
I would also point out that traveling at the age of COVID-19 is not easy. You need to do your research with even more vigilance and be prepared to turn around when necessary. Just within the last few weeks, I have witnessed several friends having to change their travel plans due to closed borders or canceled flights.
Beyond that, I would recommend what I learned from a solo-traveling friend from my youth. This man always shared his itinerary with a couple of key friends. It included his flights, hotels, etc., just so someone else knew his expected travel plans. This was before cell phones, but even in today’s time, I strongly suggest that at least one other person knows where you are going and that you check in with them from time to time so that someone is on the lookout for emergencies. Nice trip!
Harriette Cole is a lifestyle expert and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to email@example.com or c / o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.