Sophie Ellis-Bextor has revealed that she was raped as a 17-year-old by a 29-year-old musician.
Singer ‘Murder On The Dancefoor’, now 42, spoke about the shocking incident for the first time in her memoir Swivel plates.
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In an excerpt published by Mail Sunday, Ellis-Bextor said the man — whom she referred to as “Jim” —took his virginity despite saying “no” and “I do not want to.”
“He didn’t listen to me and he had sex with me and I felt so ashamed. That’s how I lost my virginity and I felt stupid,” she recalled.
“I remember staring at Jim’s bookshelves and thinking, ‘I just have to let this happen now.
“I never saw Jim again, but a friend came across him, and when my name came up, he said we had dated. We never dated. He would not even see me. He certainly would not listen to me.”
Ellis-Bextor said she was confused about her experience because at the time, sexual assault was referred to as “something associated with aggression” rather than consent.
“The older I get, the sharper the 29-year-old man who ignored me at 17 seemed,” she said.
“I’m not interested in naming and embarrassing the guy involved. I googled him and he seems to be happy with his business and is in what looks like a happy long term relationship.
“But I want to encourage everyone to realize where the line between right and wrong lies.”
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The hitmaker, who shares five sons with her husband Richard Jones, said she had introduced “the concept of consent pretty early” to her children.
“I want to raise considerate, kind people who can take into account the feelings of others,” she said. “I want them to actively want the other person to be happy too, rather than just stopping because they have to.”
Ellis-Bextor also said she hopes she will be heard by speaking out and telling the publication: “I was not heard when I was 17, but I think I will be heard now.
Spinning Plates by Sophie Ellis-Bextor will be released on October 7th.
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